Mom, I’m Gay: Loving your LGBTQ child without sacrificing your faith by Susan Cottrell
When your child reveals that he or she is attracted to the same sex, how you respond may have a lot to do with your faith. Doesn’t the Bible say that’s wrong? Will we have to leave our church? Worst of all, you may wonder, “Do I have to choose between my Christian faith and my child?”
Susan Cottrell is a mom who has been there and wants you to know that loving and accepting your gay child does not mean abandoning or even compromising your faith. This is not a book about the politics or morality of homosexuality. This is a book about how to respond with love and support during this vulnerable time for your child. With practical advice and heartfelt encouragement, Cottrell guides readers through the fear and uncertainty Christian parents of LGBTQ children often feel.
NonFiction, Religion, Family
January 5, 2014
When I requested this book on NetGallery, I expected a fiction book similar to Living Right by Laila Ibrahim, this book wasn't that, but it was mind opening and thought provoking in its own way. One of my favorite quotes is
"Gender is what's in your head, Sexuality is what's in your heart and sex is what's in your pants"
I'm Christian and while I haven't received any prejudice to my gender and sexuality, I simply chalked it down to not caring about what anyone, whether family, friend or pastor says. And while I know not everyone has that luxury, it really hit me hard at how parents react to their kid's non-binary gender or a sexuality that isn't 'straight' I mean most of their response were so ridiculous, hurtful and selfish, and the fact that parents chase away their kids because they are 'immoral' annoyed me so much that I stopped reading the book (I returned back to the book two hours later though)
I loved how the author corrected the misuse of bible scriptures to justify hate. It reminded me of an image on Pinterest that said
"If you have to make laws to hate a group of people just to prove your morals and faith, then you have no true morals or faith to prove."
Seriously, shouldn't Christianity be about your relationship with God instead of your need to judge, fault, hurt and discriminate people? What the fuck happened to love EVERYONE unconditionally? Why would people turn a blind eye to everything wrong with this world but for some reason, act like they have a stick shoved up their ass when it comes to people who identify as one or more of the LGBTQIA identities?
How do people think that it's perfectly reasonable to assume that someone chooses to be gay, or that all gay individuals have experienced some sort of childhood trauma? And who started this Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve nonsense?
I understand that as a parent you have certain expectations for your child and it's perfectly understandable to feel uncomfortable or off balance if your child decides to live their life the way they want rather than living to your expectations, but ultimately their sexuality and gender are not about you, they don't want to humiliate or embarrass you. Your primary concern should be less about people's opinion and more about making sure your child is happy or safe. I for one I'm looking forward to embarrassing my kids with the sex talk (both the straight and gay version) complete with pamphlets and condoms. Frankly, I care more about them being safe and not contracting STI's than their sexuality.
In the words of Dr. Seuss, "A person is a person no matter how small" My version of that quote is "A person is a person, no matter their gender, sexuality, religion, race and whatever other metric used to segregate people"
Dear Christians, If your Pastor, family or friends encourages, hate, physical assault and discrimination to your child or people who identify as part of the LGBTQIA community then you need to get the hell away from them!